Elope in St Louis

The word elope USED to mean "to run away with a lover, with the intention of getting married."
Today it means having a small, quick, intimate wedding without the stigma of running away or keeping it a secret.
Elope at any location in St Louis like your home, hotel lobby, public park, favorite restaurant.
ANYWHERE!
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Elopement Etiquette

Part of the beauty of an elopement is that many (if not most) of the rules and formalities of a traditional wedding does not apply. There are, however, rules of etiquette unique to elopements that can and should be followed. Get to know the proper way to handle your elopement, from how and when to break the news to loved ones, to the proper way to approach a post-elopement celebration. 

Keep Loved Ones in the Dark About Your Elopement
DISCRETION
The high level of secrecy surrounding an elopement is precisely its biggest draw – no one can commandeer it, try to talk you out of it, or invite themselves to it if they're not aware it's happening. But keeping loved ones in the dark is in their best interests as well. If you tell your sister and no one else, guess who's going to feel slighted when the news comes out? Everybody except for your secret-keeping sister, who, by the way, may not be at all happy to have been put in that position. The surprise element is precisely what differentiates elopements from other types of weddings; so if an elopement is what you want, plan to keep your plans under wraps.

IF YOU ARE NOT ENGAGED
Skipping the engagement phase and going straight to marriage is what elopements were made for. The element of surprise is ironclad and you're not obligated to disclose your plans in advance. If a discussion of your whereabouts during that time period comes up, saying that you'll be traveling and/or on vacation is truthful without revealing your elopement plans. 

Couples with Non-Adult Children
The exception to this is if one or both of you has non-adult children. Kids need to be prepared in advance for any marriage that involves a parent and bypassing the adjustment period that an engagement affords is already a precarious situation. Advising young children in advance and including them in your elopement experience is the best-case scenario, but at the very least, they should be informed of your plans in person and given the opportunity to ask any questions before you take the plunge.

IF YOU ARE ENGAGED
Once an engagement has been announced, people will naturally begin to question you about wedding plans. If you're considering an elopement from the get-go, simply remaining noncommittal about your future "wedding plans" is your best option.
 
Sometimes, however, it's the stress of wedding planning already underway that ends up being the impetus for an elopement. The point you are at in the planning process and the corresponding circumstances will help determine if you're obligated to disclose your elopement plans to your parents and/or close family members in advance or not.

  • If you're only in preliminary planning discussions and no financial investment has been made, you needn't disclose
  • If you're in the early or mid stages of planning and any monies spent have been your own, you needn't disclose
  • If you're in the early or mid stages of planning and a small investment of money not your own has been made but can easily be refunded or repaid, you needn't disclose
  • If you plan to simply precede the wedding with a private elopement rather than replace it, you needn't disclose
It's when invitations have gone out and/or someone other than yourselves has already made a significant financial investment that a discussion about your newfound desire to elope is essential. Unraveling an event at this point is a complicated matter affecting many people, and those who are immediately involved are entitled to hear your reasons for wanting to replace the wedding with an elopement and discuss the implications before it happens.

Post Elopement Invitation
POST-ELOPEMENT CELEBRATIONS
An elopement doesn't require that you forgo a celebration with loved ones – to the contrary, elopements are often followed by a reception after the couple has returned home, complete with cake, toasts, music, and dancing.
 
A Champagne and Cake Reception is the most common celebration following an elopement, and as the name suggests, champagne and wedding cake are served in lieu of a meal. Cocktail receptions are also popular for post-elopement celebrations, but the size and type of party are up you. If a dinner, barbecue, or clambake is more your style, there are no formal rules set that can interfere with your choice.

FAQ
Can I invite people to my elopement? 
If you'd like to bring witnesses along on your elopement, it's entirely up to you -- a mini destination wedding has its own particular type of magic, and though your event won't be a complete secret, you'll still be minimizing the number of people who know about it in advance. Reach out by phone or in person to your prospective guests. Just keep in mind that when travel is involved, coordinating a group is trickier than booking a flight and accommodations for two.

Elope at Home

Kim and Duarell decided the best and most memorable place to start their marriage is in their home.
Many homes have a fireplace or a focal point for the elopement ceremony.
Kim chose the Victorian Lace bouquet and White Rose boutonniere.
Photos by Jaimie Kraus with ModernSTLPhoto

One Last Look as a Single Woman

The Wedding Rings

A Boutonniere Adds Just the Right Touch

The Victorian Lace Bouquet
  
Designer Wedding Shoes

Place The Ring on Her Finger and Repeat After Me

You May Share Your First Kiss as Husband and Wife

Two Witnesses Sign the Marriage License

A Toast to the Newlyweds






LOVE Grows in Our Home

And They Lived Happily Ever After